Saturday, December 15, 2012

Relating with God: Making the intangible tangible

Something that I'm passionate about is marketing. Through my marketing classes at school, I've been the most interested in the concept of target marketing. Basically, if a company has a good or service they are producing, they need to figure out the need for the good or service. A target market is a specific group of people that a company views as its potential customers. The goal is for the company to represent quality and status of itself to this potential customer to catch his attention, leading to the sale of a good or service. Everything a company does should be analyzed to see if it fits the target market of its potential customer.

For any market to be reached, a company needs to figure out how to make tangible products and intangible services more tangible for the customer. The more tangible a product or service is to the customer, the more a customer is likely to make a purchase.

One example: a customer walks in to IKEA to see what kinds of organizational products exist. IKEA is designed to reach customers who care about three things: efficient organization, low prices, and the environment. In order to reach these people who value these things, IKEA has designed its entire store to show its products. There are displays throughout the entire store that invite the customer to see what products would look like in his home. Some of the displays are set up as tiny studio apartments, designed to show all IKEA products that improve space quality in the home. IKEA has a restaurant at the top floor. Every single item used in the restaurant is a product sold in the store: every item from the light fixtures, to the chairs, to the plates the food is served on. IKEA makes its products tangible by giving customers the chance to see how products work and could potentially benefit the customer.

One example of a service is the insurance office I work for. I meet with customers and talk to them about the quality of State Farm insurance. My coworkers and I sell policies that protect customers in future events. The challenge we have is helping customers assess their needs with the resources they have. We don't want to sell customers more insurance coverage then they need, but we need to make sure they are fully covered in the event of a claim. When we get done writing a policy, we hand customers a piece of paper that explains their coverages and outlines their premium plans. Something we encounter everyday is how do we show customers that we represent quality service and that we are trustworthy when we are talking about protecting them in future events? That's a huge part of my role in my office is thinking about the customers we serve and how to give customers quality in the present. Besides being efficient with payments and friendly on the phone, I find ways to represent quality with our marketing materials. Part of our budget allows for us to purchase products that we can give away to people who walk into our office. When clients come in with their kids, sometimes I'll give a kid a State Farm teddy bear. We give out calendars with my agent's name on them to our clients. Sometimes I'll order a bunch of potted plants and take them to customers who are in the hospital after a horrible accident or to their houses after a family member has passed away. Giving out free items to customers doesn't "make" a business, but it is a kind gesture that shows you care. It shows the quality of your care from a personal and a business standpoint.

Why am I so intrigued by this concept of tangibility? I think some of us are really, really good at seeing intangible things and figuring out what to do with them. Like numbers people. Like my dad, he is so good at sitting down with a whole bunch of expenses and numbers and creating budgets and plans for a business. I am the opposite. If I sit down and look at an accounting assignment, all I see is a bunch of numbers. They mean nothing to me. It's always been that way for me. I liked math in elementary school because my teachers would take physical things to describe math problems. My third grade teacher taught us math with using candy. We would act out the problems using the pieces. It made it tangible for me to understand the purpose of the assignment.

I think because I like tangible things, I have struggled often with the presence of God. Last year I really struggled with this concept. It was a day when I was down about something and I was praying to God. When I was in prayer, I asked Him why I couldn't just be hugged by Him. I know thats kind of a weird thing to ask. Whenever I pictured God, I always pictured this huge guy just sitting on this golden throne, unapproachable. In my mind, I knew God was loving but I didn't feel that closeness. I knew I couldn't just run up and hug God and for some reason that was really hard for me. As I was wrestling with this, I really started asking God for faith.

As I was asking for this faith, I was trying to listen to people who I knew believe in God. I remember sitting in chapel almost every tuesday and thursday of my sophomore year hearing people's testimonies. In almost every testimony, I heard the speaker say something along the lines of "God transformed me and I realized it wasn't about religion but it is about a relationship with Him. He started changing so much in my life for good and now I am living every day for Him. Let's pray". That's how just about all of the sermons would conclude and I was always left unsatisfied. I wanted to know more. What did this relationship with God look like on a day-to-day basis? What about the bad days? How does a redeemed person trust and relate with this perfect God every single day, even when sinful and bad things still come up? I started getting really bitter last year because I wondered why, even though I've always had so much faith and reverence for God, why I didn't feel physically close to Him.

As I've written about in my blog before, God really used this past summer in Colorado in my life. He gave me this gift of tangibility. I loved driving twenty minutes in the mountains on my way to work because I could see the creative and magnificent God reflected in the natural world around me. I loved hiking with my friend Tana on the weekends because we could just get so lost in this world. It really hit me the day I was hiking the fourteener (mountains in colorado that are taller than 14000 feet) Quandary. It hit me that I WAS relating with God. All of the time I was asking God questions in the car on the way to work and expressing my frustrations and my lack of understanding, all of the time I spend hiking and thinking about all of the things I was seeing, and all of the people God used in my life this summer who gave me hugs and talked to me about God's love for me when I didn't even believe He could love someone like me. God WAS relating to me. God WAS tangibly reaching down to me. He WAS listening to me and giving me this faith and deep desire to know Him. Through the things He made: I saw His beauty in the mountains, I saw His character in my good friend Tana and in the members of the family I lived with this summer.

It also hit me one day when I was on my lunch break. I was eating lunch in one of my favorite places: a mountainy park with all this beautiful red rock. There was this spot that I liked to hike to that had this perfect rock to sit on and dangle me feet over. I was talking on the phone to my best friend Joy who lives in Chicago, way too far away! I've known Joy since I was four years old. We've seen each other grow and transform in so many incredible ways through the years. This summer was really hard being so far away from her when we both had a lot going on. There were many times when we were talking that I just wanted to give her a hug and I couldn't, but I knew she was there. And my gratitude for my friendship with her just grew immensely this summer. God was giving me this friendship that I had known since just about when I can start remembering. God shows his character through Joy Dean because He is consistent and her friendship has been consistent in my life.

So I've had this realization that God has created people and things to represent Himself. We are called to love one another and treasure one another because we represent God's love to each other. Of course we have to be careful about depending on these things. If I get disappointed in people, I have to be careful not to get disappointed in God too, and man I struggle with that because I am so focused on tangible life.

But that's kind of when the concept of relationship with people makes sense to me. That's how it makes sense to me that God blesses me with roommates and friendships and perhaps a certain guy ;) ...Relationships are blessings that God gives us to bring us all to Him. We have to ask for the faith to see Him even in disappointment and to see Him through His creation. We have to choose to worship the Creator for these blessings, not His created things.

When we ask for that faith and spend time with the people we are thankful for and ask Him to show Himself to the people we encounter, we are relating with Him. God wants our hearts. He created our hearts and wants us to express the things we love to Him.

In the past year, I have developed this deep desire to have stronger faith even when I can't point to things and say that's why I want to believe more. I just do. And the only explanation I have to explain that desire is that I was created for it.

I'll leave with this last thought that comes from a story in Matthew. It's a story of darkness and a father with a heavy heart for his son. A father who loved his son in the midst of such a desperate and heavy situation and a father whose faith still led him to ask his hearts deepest desire. It's a story about a God who uses his people to heal and give, but about a people who have little faith and a lot of doubt. It's a story about a God who takes compassion and gave this man faith and healing in the situation, even though there was sin and unbelief present. It's a story that shows us how to ask for healing, but even more how to embrace faith and trust the Lord in every single thing we do in faith:



When they came to the crowd, a man approached Jesus and knelt before him.  “Lord, have mercy on my son,” he said. “He has seizures and is suffering greatly. He often falls into the fire or into the water. I brought him to your disciples, but they could not heal him.”
“You unbelieving and perverse generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy here to me.” Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed at that moment.
Then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?”
He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”


Matthew 17:14-21

Saturday, December 1, 2012

"You can have all this world, just give me Jesus"

I'm the character in a movie. I'm walking down the city street. My surroundings are blurred and I'm just walking. I've experienced something that I can't shake. I'm changed while all this normal goes on around me.

I've heard stories from friends before who didn't like going home because of family issues there. I've never known what it was like to have an incredibly heavy issue when I went home until recently.

I've felt this heavy disappointment and darkness. When I feel this heaviness, sometimes God seems far away, but what I have had to come to realize by the end of this week is that when we are disappointed in the world, we are really disappointed with sin, not God.

To understand the hope I have in Jesus I have to first look into what sin really is.

Sin is seeing our current situations and making some sort of justification for our behavior. Take the story of Adam and Eve. They justified their sin of eating of the forbidden fruit based on the fact that they were tricked by the devil. When we sin, we justify our actions. We can believe anything to be okay. A friend could betray another friend, telling a secret promised to be kept in confidence. A man could beat up another man because he was wronged in a financial situation. A husband or wife could cheat on his or her spouse because he or she feels there was a lack of affection from the spouse. A lonely man could drink himself sick because he feels he cannot cope in the situations life has brought him. But when we justify ourselves there is no end to what we'll do.

Take the story of Cain and Able. One brother was jealous of the other. He made a justification for his behavior that was so strong it lead to him murdering his brother.

And the thing is once we justify the "little things" like telling white lies or cheating on taxes or eating the forbidden fruit, we can justify just about anything  like betraying our most loved ones or murdering someone.

That is indeed why Christ's sacrifice was so incredibly immaculate. We, humans, justified to the point of murder, so He saved us by taking all of our darkest sin upon himself to justify and purify us.

And that is where the hope is found. We can't do it on our own at all. All we do to fix our problems is to justify and justify our ways. But his love and Holy Spirit inside of us are strong enough to lead us to complete surrender and love for Him.

The hard thing is that we all have choices. I'm feeling the heaviness of a situation I have no control or choice over, but I know He is good. I don't understand why some choices have been made. I wish they weren't. I wish it didn't affect me the way it does. I wish I didn't feel as displaced as I do in going home, but that's when God reminds me of another truth: He is my home. He is my hope, my desire, my faith, my rock and cornerstone.

In my weakness and inability to do anything in this situation reminds me of His strength. I have to depend on Him and fully rely on His wisdom in every way I respond to a situation I have no control over.

And again, the heaviness I feel is the sin of the world. The inconsistencies I see are people who choose ways that are not His. God consistently loves us and consistently hates our sin. And praise Him! Because He is consistent. Praise Him because He is always, always good.

And He is good weather He heals or not.

"Even if the healing doesn't come and life falls apart and dreams are still undone, you are God. You are good forever faithful one. Even if the healing, even if the healing doesn't come" -Kutless

"The Lord is good, a strong refuge when trouble comes. He is close to those who trust in Him" Nahum 1:7